Itís kind of awkward to have to be writing this when I am supposed to be asleep, but itís come to my attention that thereís been some injustice done here. I really wish it wouldnít have to come to this, but I feel like Iíve been backed into a corner and I just end up with no more options.
When I started here, it was reallyÖ a diverse place, and that was back then when we had Kara running around, but thatís a different point. What Iím trying to say is, today I saw something that really wasnít something that I want to see, and I guess thatís someone that felt like they were bullied, not just today but systematically over a period of weeks.
I was ready to drop my title as an admin, in all honesty, because I felt like I have not upheld what I was supposed to do, and under my watch Iíve had people just leave the site because a few select people have made them unwanted, and itís this same group of individuals who I will be watching closely.
To those who were here, you all know what Iím talking about, name dropping will not be necessary. Lately, a few of the staff team have been looking at site rules, and we have found out that their rules just happen to be a lot more rigid and structured than ours, and maybe itís time that we become stricter on you guys.
Aubs has pointed out that many of you all, and us, are repeat offenders and you all just get a slap on the hand and get away with almost anything. Well, just think of this as your parents pushing you off the nest; Over the next few days, weíre going to be changing many things. Rules will be re-written, maybe even erased. What I can say is that we will personally workóafter we have finished with our own work with our jobsóon getting this site back to what it was. No one will get away with anything, be assured.
With every action, there is a consequence and we will be sure to start handing those out to the people who deserve them. Weíll also be reviewing our staff, and when I say this I only speak for myself, but I think I for one have not done a good job as I ought have done; I know there are times when I may come off as cold and unapproachableóand I do apologize in advanced for that, but whatever happens, I want you to tell me anything period.
If you have a problem, a concern, something that you do not like and you want something to be done about it, let me know and I will make sure that me and the staff do the best that we can to accommodate you, and Iím letting you know now that I will personally work with you on anything that you have any problem about. My aim is email@example.com , and Iím also willing to give out my personal number if you want to reach me when I am not online. I want all of us to be able to work together, I think we have been here for this long, it will be a shame for any of us to just up and leave now; weíve had so much fun and we will have so much more fun together if we all work for it.
And donít be discouraged to reply back with any criticism or anything that you want to see, anything you have in mind that you want, or if you want to help out, anything is welcomed. If you donít feel comfortable with a post, a message is always nice, so just send them our way.
Migz has said basically most of what I was, but I did actually feel the need this time to say some things as well. I think we collectively as a site of writers need to get it together and step our game up. There's been a huge lack of respect not only from those of us who are on the staff [myself included at times -- for which i apologize] and members, who like migz, i will not take the time out to name but they know who they are. I've been talking about it with a few people these past couple of months now, and I've most certainly have felt a shift. While we've continued to garner new members with outstanding characters and amazing personalities, there's been a weird distance and it hasn't set well with me. Members feel like they're no longer welcomed, petty drama has happened over the smallest of incidents, and grudges have ensued causing what seems like a divide between what is supposed to be a family.
What we all have to realize first is we're all individuals. We all have feelings, we all sometimes get those feelings hurt and react a little more dramatically than we should, but at the end of the day we all deserve the same amount of respect AND THEN SOME from each other.
Yes, there is going to be some revisions in the rules. Yes, we're going to be a bit more harder on people who we feel are repeat offenders in some of the drama. But the main thing that will not change is the basis of the site continuing to be a safe haven for it's members like it's creator, Bats intended it to be. The first step is change and we're going to go about it with what I feel are some very effective methods that'll help the place out in the long run.
I wasn't sure whether I was going to write anything here, but it has really come to light within the last few minutes that this is an issue that needs to be addressed and backed up to the fullest extent.
Migz released an announcement that wasn't too dissimilar to this a number of weeks ago. Many people replied, with messages of praise for the post and a ton of gifs that at the time seemed to be supported. However, this solved none of the problem at hand. It may have masked it, made us believe that things were going to be fine again. But on the contrary, it didn't improve anything. In fact, we've slipped more downhill since then.
Why? People don't have the courage to stand up and say, "yeah, that's me, i'm part of the problem and I intend to solve it." Which is really damned disgusting, that people don't even have a conscience to distinguish between right and wrong. We're all responsible for ourselves. Migz is NOT our parent and should not have to pick up after us when we leave absolute messes. And this doesn't just apply to regular members, the newbies or those who treat this like any other roleplaying site that they're on. This goes for every single one of you, whether you be staff or a dedicated member, or someone who's recently been integrated into the site. There are a small handful of people on here that have become really nasty recently, but they can't even acknowledge that they're causing any sort of problem whatsoever. Which terrifies me, because I wonder what kind of people some of you are in the real world. And I get further worried because I fret that we've cultured you to behave as such.
I'm not saying you're bad human beings, but there are times when I want to hit some of you over the head with a crowbar for the unfair treatment of a member. And you don't even seem to realise that you're the cause of the problem, that what you count as a 'joke' or 'nothing' can affect someone so much that they no longer feel able to participate at all.
What sickens me further is how some of you regard this site as your haven; you see it as an escape from the real world where you feel like you don't quite have a place the way you do here. But you continue to segregate and single out those you don't like. You alienate the participants of this establishment and you drive people away. Yet, at the end of the day, you came here because you seeked solace- it's only a roleplaying site. We could close it down tomorrow and you'd have no say in the matter. You'd just have to continue with your life, because this is no more than a URL and a bunch of coding. What really brings it into its own is you guys, cooperating and injecting it with some form of being that makes it thrive. So when people group together and push others away, it's really sad. Because we're the ones who mould this site, so if we're filling it with any number of bad situations, we're turning this entire site into something terrible.
If we don't make a change, then what option do we have? I won't even justify that question with an answer. I don't want to see this site die, which is why we need to crack down and make sure you come to terms with what some of you guys are doing. You need to evaluate yourselves and have some understanding of when enough is enough.
i had written a long response to all of this. but frankly, everything's been said already and i'm not going to waste the time,fonts,or efforts. new rules are needed and certain bullshit needs to be ended.thee end
I'm not staff but I figured this is the best place to post this. Feel free to delete it and move it to an admin area or something if you want. I'm going to try and make this as short as possible, seriously I've rewritten it like 10 times to avoid repeating myself. It's after work and late, though...
I praise the work you guys do here, you run a fantastic site and I am genuinely happy to log onto it several times a day. I do have a suggestion that, perhaps, I should have brought up a while ago. It didn't seem important then, though, but with the recent comment I saw that implied (in my understanding) that the administrators are unapproachable and do nothing to assist with problems, I thought I might add it.
Members give suggestions frequently on the site, all good sites thrive from them, yet it is my experience that very little feedback is given on the outcome. Suggestions are acknowledged and then nothing else is heard of them. I can't speak for others, I don't know what has happened with them, but I can speak for myself. While I, and several others, know you guys and can follow up on things if we really want to know, other members might not feel the same way and it can give a bad impression of the staff team as a whole. My suggestion would be taking five or ten seconds out after the team has discussed a suggestion to just shoot the member a PM and let them know the outcome (even better, posting a response in the suggestions thread to all previous suggestions). This goes a long way to making people feel important and like they have a voice. From my personal experience, it also encourages them to stand up and give more suggestions or speak to staff when there is an issue. This in turn helps you guys out because you can bop problems on the head with a rubber mallet before they get out of hand.
It's only a small thing and it's not a magic formula that can solve site problems but it does give a good impression of the site and the staff.
Another suggestion I might add is having a thread where the staff give the best ways to contact them. With people like Migz who have a lot of characters, it's hard to know where it is best to contact them or even what their admin account name is (for those who have them). I know, when I first joined, I had no clue who to speak to and I felt terrified to even try and PM someone in case I never got a response. Perhaps create a thread that lists the admin/mod, their IM details (if they want it on there), their main character and their admin account so that people have a way of contacting you and getting a speedy response if they want to speak privately to one administrator as oppose to another? This allows some anonymity and for trust to be built.
Since Tay pointed my eyes to the thread I'll rephrase this suggestion cause I'm a total twit. Perhaps indicate which accounts are the best to contact various staff members on a little clearer so that speedy responses can be given (like Dotty, for instance, is on as Max more often than most others I see so she would best be contacted there - fail example at an example but it's late so I'm excused!)
These are just ideas and suggestions, I don't have issues with the staff at all, I've never had a problem talking to you. I do, however, think it could be beneficial to at least consider or adapt it to suit you all.
On a lighter note if you ever need a hand with anything, even just as simple as assisting with the ads then PMing someone to lock them, please feel free to PM me or catch me on AIM. I am happy to help out if it is needed, in any capacity. I love this site, I don't want to see anything happen to it. I don't care who is to blame or who thinks they are innocent, I joined this community because of its diversity and I stayed because I love you guys and, even being scarce for my first few months, I couldn't bare to leave. We've made it this far and we've all got fucking awesome characters..!
I agree with the revision of the rules a little and that there's a certain extent where joking around goes too far. It's been worse here too be honest and I feel the best thing about HTB was not having to worry about tiptoeing around people's feelings. Joking around with eachother shows a level of closeness and comfort. There will always be some type of conflict on the site between members, but I believe that people can overcome it and be civil and maybe not engage the other as much if they clash.
I think part of the problem is how people word things and come across differently than how they intended. Others misinterpret it and lash back, common response, it happens and though I realize that some problems need to be addressed, dealing with every problem will just give people ideas to address every little thing. I can't even imagine how bombarded the admins must get lately.
Honestly. the place to address this conflict is not the c-box it does not reflect well on the site and will definitely not help in attracting members.
We're all different on HTB and that's great, but we need to realize how others and respect and accept them. Let's just think about what we're saying before we say it I know it's elementary school
I also don't feel comfortably having to tiptoe around others' feelings. Some things just don't need to be said, however.
I think part of the problem is how people word things and come across differently than how they intended. Others misinterpret it and lash back, common response, it happens
The age old problem caused by being unable to hear the tone in someone's voice... Text does not translate tone as well as the spoken word or body language. I definitely have to agree with what you've said there.
alright. i wasn't going to say anything because sometimes i suck at replying to these things without being vague and just agreeing. i agree with what miggle has to say.I agree that a certain level of respect MUST be practiced. I agree with a change to the rules and a stricter enforcement, I've actually been making comments in my conversations with members about wanting them to be more commonly known and enforced. Another thing I agree with, is conflicts not being 'resolved' in cbox. Should be managed outside of the box, with admin.The thing I think... you can't completely tip-toe around people's feelings. worrying constantly only makes people uncomfortable, and makes situations awkward. If anything, we should better communication. With a certain situation that happened recently, i don't think half the people involved knew that what they were joking about was a sensitive subject for the person they were joking with. If people are less hasty to respond with extreme measures, and maybe communicate that they are bothered by something, then the people 'causing the problem by 'joking'' can stop. No one here does it intentionally, at least I don't think so. If you're up front with how you feel then i think most offenses can be avoided completely. I'm not saying that those joking aren't to blame. I'm saying we all kind of suck at communicating sometimes..along with meg, i'm more than willing to help you guys with whatever you need. I'm always around and experienced in a little too much of this site stuff meg, there's a 'contact the staff' topic: here :3
I think everyone here doesn't realize that it's not just aboutthe "joking" on the site, because people don't always getsuper offended by it, but most of the time they play alongwith it and start a gif war in the cbox. But there are peoplethat take things way too far and it doesn't even boil downto telling somebody that it's too much. Most of the time it'sthe same people saying extremely rude, and sometimes evenselfish, things and they know what they're doing when they do it.There are members on this site that I know - as many other people-who have been out to a) destroy plots and b) get people against them.That's why my good roleplaying buddy left. She had beenmade a fool of by a certain member and had people AGAINST her.She would come in the cbox and she would immediately be shunned.This isn't high school where longer members or older members areuppclassmen ripping on the new freshman who are lower than dirt.We are all people here on a mutual like of writing and creatingstories that we can control. I don't understand why people who are theage they are have been ripping on people the same age - or even younger or older - for their characters, their writing styles, their posts,or their plots. we can act like civilized people to be on this site and keep it running because like boof said; they could close it down tomorrow and we wouldn't be able to do anything to stop it! the admin team is great, but like it was said, some are very unapproachable and even rude a lot of the time. i'm not going to name names but i think people know what i'm talking about. one of the rules, i even believe it's the first, is respect. and people are not getting it. so the people that are disrespectful on a daily basis, why are you breaking the site rules? and on the same note of that, you're getting a pardon from the admins.. you're not being punished for your attitude so you should be cleaning up your act because they were ignoring it for you and not enforcing punishment.maturity has constantly been a topic of discussion among members but you know what i really feel like it comes down to? no one here is mature. because in an event of drama like the kind we've been having for awhile, everyone reacts like animals when something actually happens about it. like when a certain away was posted? there was a sudden shift in select people's attitudes because they knew they were walking a tightrope with the admins but of course, they returned to how they were. and i won't be secretive in saying this, i fear the same thing might happen with this. even if there are going to be rule changes. people joke about being rude and laugh at how they are but they don't realize how serious it is for them. i have seen characters AND members singled out and it's not okay. like i said, we're here on a mutual like. and you know, if you're going to abuse the rules, admins, and members...why are you here? and if you do that, own up to it! don't sit and change your attitude just because they're cracking down and you know who you are. it's like buffy said, no one wants to come forward and say that they are part of the 'trouble causing group'. now i'm not saying that i'm not part of the problem, because i know i have contributed to some drama. and i am upset with myself over it but i stopped that a long time ago because i know how it feels to be the victim. it's not fun you guys. now i doubt anyone will read this whole thing, especially since it's turned into a ramble that probably doesn't make any sense but yeah. migz, reg, buffy, aubs, lizzeh, am, dotty; you guys are simply amazing at your jobs. you do what you have to do and i know you're there if i need you and i know it's the same for the other members. the site got out of control and i feel like it would've happened anyways with the giant population the site has, maybe not to this extent but it would've happened in some sort. you guys are taking control and not ignoring it and that's awesome. we do need to work all together to get this site functioning with everyone being civilized so new and old members aren't pushed away by the hostility some members have against each other....i love the site, i use to love coming on here daily and socializing with everyone but because of ALL of these recent events, there is trust issues floating around and i know i'm not the only one with the trust problems....thank you.and of course, i'm always here to help you all.
Group: LOCAL ADMIN
Member No.: 572
Joined: 10-March 11
all righty, everything has been covered, for the most part, but i would just like to say that i really wish people would just own up to what they've been doing, how they've been contributing to the site-wide problems. this is the only way change can happen. playing dumb or innocent isn't fooling anybody, and in all honesty it feels like an insult to at least my intelligence. people are observant, particularly us losers like myself who spend all day on the internet and see everything. we know what's going on, people talk, discuss things, complain, vent -- all. the. time. being in denial about being part of the problem isn't helping nor does anybody buy your act. i use the term "your" broadly because a lot of people do this. i think it's time to put our egos aside and just own up to what we've been doing wrong and who we've hurt in the process. at this point, it's all in our best interest. it's certainly in the site's best interest. just do it, so we can all move forward.
i'm not even going to tip-toe around the subject. i've said some rude things and i've been somewhat two-faced with the side comments just to avoid any explosive drama outside the safety of aim. i think anyone who talks to me on a regular basis knows it's not out of hate as much as it is frustration... because it's really frustrating! i hate seeing members leave, even if i never really talked to them or plotted with them. i was telling miggle this last night. i'm a sentimental bitch and i'm also pretty shallow. the number of members a site has ~*obviously*~ determines a site's worth. :P in all seriousness though, i think we can all agree that we don't want to be that site who drives away members constantly, which has sort of been happening lately. i've tried pretty hard to convince a few people to stay, maybe just ignore the people who are harassing them, but it's starting to get to be a losing battle because of all the bullying that seems to only be getting worse.
everything that happened last night was blown way out of proportion, but that's not to say there isn't a very real problem that has been going on for a long, long time. i'm very glad miggle posted this, though i wish i didn't have to come to this. buffy made a good point -- he's not here to babysit. so i hope it makes everyone take a good look at themselves. because really, do we want to be those people who bully people over the internet? this isn't call of duty. don't be lame. :|
my aim is mpettersoon, otherwise i can be reached most quickly on max's account. please talk to me. i'm always available. i know i'm just a mod but i'm always willing to relay problems to the admins if i can't solve them myself. furthermore, i like meg's idea of an updated staff contact information list, because i think quick, effective, and honest communication is key here. posting vague, dramatic aways isn't the way to go about it, nor is waiting until the last possible minute to speak up and having a full blown argument in the cbox for all the guests to see.
so yeah. i don't know about y'all, but i think we can fix this problem if we're all honest with each other and more importantly, honest with ourselves.
So many good things have been said. I don't know if I can really contribute much to the discussion, so I'll keep this bad boy pretty brief.I'm sorry if I've ever offended anyone personally. I truly am. I sent out some pretty personal apologies today, owning up to some past bad behavior on my part ooc and ic. So I'm not gonna hammer on this point, but: I'm going to personally own my own shit. I'm not gonna sit there and be like "Who, me?" because I know damn well who I've offended and had beef with in the past. So I'm going to just own it quietly with the individuals involved, so we can move on.I've been trying to make an effort lately to branch out and get move involved with more people on site, plotting and ooc-friendship wise. I'd like to continue to do that. Just wanted to put out there that... I know what I've done in the past. And I'm owning it on a personal level.So this is just a general mea cupla. Sorry to people I've offended or had ooc issues with, I will try to own up to ANY past bad behavior and make things more friendly and better. Let's all move on and get back to roleplaying, chatting, gif-wars, and awesome characters. Because... it's what we're here for.
Member No.: 1,846
Joined: 19-September 11
So I'm sitting here reading all of this and I couldn't agree more. I know in the past I was a bitch, and I apologize to anyone if I ever offended you. It's not my attention to do so. So once again, I am sorry. Anyways, I'm not in the cbox or the icc anymore that much because of the fact that I feel like I'm being ran off or something. I tried to talk to people. Most of you will respond back, but there's a FEW that will go on and just ignore me, but we're all bad at that though (and I'm sorry for that too, I'm working on it). Which I'm cool with that. I'm not gonna be everybody's friend. I'll say hi and whatever just to see how everybody is doing and just leave it at that. I don't like confrontations or drama. I'm too old for that. So I've been quiet with the cbox and the icc. I actually had Lizzeh come to my box and asked me if I was okay. (lol) She thought that I left the site, but I didn't. I'm just being quiet now. I do my threads and that's it. I talk to some of you off the site, which to me is easier instead of being crowded in the cbox. I really do enjoy being on this site, and like it was said before, it's my haven away from the real world. I would like to know you guys a bit more and get along because I've been here too long on this site (the LONGEST one I've ever been on I might add) to see it burn to the ground. So we should all act our age and be mature about this all and stop pushing it off to the side. We're all adults here, so lets act like it.
And of course, you guys can talk to me about whatever. I think most of you have my aim or yim and if not, ask. I'm here if you want to talk. I promise you I don't bite. (:
Group: LOCAL ADMIN
Member No.: 609
Joined: 16-March 11
Woo, I really donít like waking up out of my sleep to see one of these, tbh. I donít know if I commented on the last one or not, but I really think itíll be a good time to voice my views and opinions. Everyone knows Iím a playful, goofy, and chill type of person. I joke and play around A LOT. Truthfully, I really donít know my own limit to my goofiness, which is why I need people to let me know if Iím offending or not. And if I am, I will apologize.
You have to understand that we arenít mind-readers. We wonít know if a problem is going on if you keep it bottled up to yourself. Even if you feel uncomfortable talking about it, you should at least aware an admin or mod about it so we can stop conflict from arising. Iím not hard to find at all -- you can spot me in the cbox or on one of my messengers. (donít PM me because I never check my PMs). If you need someone to chat with, [kicks open the door and steps out in a golden thong] Big daddy is hurr! Na, but seriously, Iím here for youÖ ONLY if youíre willingly to share them with me, because Iím not going to force you to spill nothing you don't want to.
And hereís my last thing: Less talking, more action. I donít want to see no one come into this thread, say this (because they feel it would be necessary), and contradict themselves in a couple of weeks from now. I want to see you PROVE that you are liable own up to your mistakes, PROVE that you are able to act your age, PROVE that you can respect others and those around you, and PROVE to me that you really want things to work out for the better. As family, we are going to have our ups and downs, but we have to stick together and work past our difference for the better.
I done pulled an Al Sharpton. Na, but I love y'all. Let's just hope every individual learn something from this and move forward in a positive way.
Member No.: 573
Joined: 10-March 11
i'll just say that i'm very ignorant about what has happened - or has been happening. what i hear and know, it's because i hear or see it in passing and i'm usually too late to add anything to the conversation. which is probably a good thing because i can be snarky. usually when it's unnecessary. so i'm going to try and keep what i say very general and to the point, lest it start to sound like i'm assuming stuff.
first of all, i like that the administration and mods have taken time to point this out. whatever else was being done in the past clearly isn't working and it needs to be fixed. even if i kind of hate that it's coming down to new rules and what not, i understand that it's necessary. what you have to remember is that every family has their disagreements, and that's what i like to see this as. we all love each other. it's just easy to misinterpret certain things through a screen, and yes - like any family - we have people that like to stir the shit pot. staying mad about won't fix anything though. i've seen this happen before. people get upset and leave and then everyone gets mad and leaves. i don't want to see that happen because this is the one place that i didn't have to put up a front to keep people happy.
but now i would like to take the time to apologize for any time that i've come off as being slightly rude or offensive. i tend to say whatever i want without any real thought. i know this has been a trend in this thread but i'm doing it too. deal with it. also, i know i'm kind of distant and a lot of you probably think i'm cliquey and up my own butt sometimes because i only talk to a select few of you openly at times, but, i'll be honest, i'm scared. i don't want to be that person that hurts people over the internet. plus, i feel like i'm annoying, but that's a personal problem. i joined originally hoping not to get attached and just stuck to my own plots (because i'm used to sites dying and feelings getting hurt, but /cool story, i know ). now that i've been here for a year i'm starting to feel bad for neglecting certain people, and i'm trying to fix that. it's a little late in the game, i know.
anywho. to sum this up, i don't want little things to tear us apart (cheese balls). it's happened to me twice with long-lasting sites and i don't think i could handle it again. and i took you guys for granted and i feel bad. /all my creys. let's be positive, because i can tell you now that no other site out there has this kind of community and it shouldn't be taken for granted and made into a drama playground. unless it's ic, obviously.
Group: HIGH SCHOOL ADMIN
Member No.: 900
Joined: 27-April 11
/late to the party
I don't know how to properly respond to all of this so I'm just going to start off from the beginning. When I first joined this site (way back in Oct. 2010) I honestly didn't think HTB was going to grow as much as it has done in the year and a half it's been around. We didn't have a site tumblr, it was brand new and I think Bats was still looking for two/three more people to be a part of the admin team at the time. In other words, there was no swarm of people jumping and down with excitement to be on this site. No mass amounts of reserved faces or people with plots all waiting to happen. Which was what attracted me as a person to it. HTB was small but active. Everyone tried to plot with each other as best as they could. Everyone was really excited whenever a new member came along, regardless of what gender the character was going to be. Hell, guests even wanted to take the canon's! What I'm trying to say is, during the months of Oct. till I want to say December/January of 2010, the site was beyond amazing. Then for some reason at the half way mark, the site was changing. Both in good ways and in not so good ways. We definitely started to get a more diverse set of characters (personality and nationality wise.) We also had more people jump on board! But....we also became a little...greedy and unnoticeable. People would just say the strangest things in the cbox without realizing that what they just typed really could have hurt someone. Especially a potential member. People were saying things as if they had no filter. We all (myself included) acted like a bunch of prima donnas who thought we were the best of the best. We became too involved with our own plots to want to branch out. We started to shun other people and in the process, hurt more lives than we thought possible. People started getting nastier about face claims and nitpicking every little thing. Complaints about people not getting plots/no posts in their shippers were becoming way too frequent in the cbox. Heck, I felt that people were taking out their frustrations on other members in the icc box instead of just talking to them outside of the site. In other words, the cbox is not a place to dump your dirty laundry, there are no special thrones and it does not give you the excuse to act like some pathetic/attention craving high senior that clearly doesn't take responsibility for anything. This basically is the reason why I do not go on HTB over the weekend/ during vacation. As much as I love the site, everyone knows that out in the real world, your teacher/professor/boss/co-worker will not care about how popular you are on some site. They want to see productivity and if you don't deliver, you get the boot. So I use that time to focus on school/personal issues.
As many of you have already done, I would also like to apologize to anyone out there who I personally may have offended in any way shape of form. I never mean to hurt anyone when I type out my thoughts but at times I have a feeling I may come off as being cold/rude. I know I too tend to only want to talk to certain people at times on the site because frankly some of you tend to annoy me on the cbox. Especially when you say certain things that just really get me wound up. Or when there happens to be more than one person on the box and you and your buddy ignore those people one hundred percent of the time. On that note, I also know some of us are comfortable with using words like ''ho, bitch, whore, slut /list goes on to express affection towards one other but to someone new on the site....they might take it the wrong way. So I'm not saying playful banter needs to stop, I'm just saying maybe we should learn to use more appropriate words to express how much we appreciate someone.
In conclusion, I feel that the main reason people roleplay is to take some time away from whatever drama is going on in their own lives and to have some sort of outlet in terms of writing. Now, if all anyone is going to experience is the same thing online, well, what's the point of even being here anymore? It's up to all of us to really focus on what is best for the site. There has to be a legitimate reason old members have come back to HTB in the past. There has to be a reason members who have been around for either a month or a year end up leaving. Think about it.
I know I may not be around as much as everyone else, but I sincerely mean my words when I say I ( and everyone else on staff) are always open to talk to anyone if they truly feel that they need someone to talk to. The best way you can reach me -personally- right now is through Personal Messages via any of my characters or you can write to me on my askbox on tumblr and we can talk there.