Long story short, my "D"H "forgot" to take the trash out week before last, and when I read him the riot act about that he was like...why do you get to decide that's my job?? I was like #$%$% I fill the #$%$% thing up! You take it to the curb@! $E$%#
Also I blew my stack over the fact he is lazy about washing his dishes. Sorry but I have to work (outside our home) so I will NOT be a slave and clean up everything after him. To #$% with that eh. Anyway he will literally leave dishes rotting in the sink for days and days and days.... @@##@$ I told him flat out that will not be happening anymore. He said something like I do the same thing. I flipped my lid. I used to be a bit lazy about dishwashing (have to do it all by hand, no machine) but I have changed my ways. I handwash dishes often. Most they will stay in the sink is two days which might seem bad but it's a huge improvement over before. I don't allow a mountain to pile up either cause I hate having lots to wash. Anyway, I have been washing my dishes frequently for months and months, ever since I quit my crappy old job. The habit has stuck.
I was like just cause I might have been bad at washing dishes BEFORE doesn't mean you can do the same thing NOW. I threatened to ban him from the kitchen and from eating anything I cook. I am desperate, no other threats / nagging / polite asking / bribing will work. I am not going to allow disgusting stuff to sit in my kitchen OR be a slave and do HIS dirty dishes TOO. If I cook dinner for us I end up doing ALL the dishes AND the cleaning up while his lazy $%$% sits on the computer or in front of the TV.
Yeah, I'm suuuuuuuuper mad. Men are just so FREAKING STUPID. How come he doesn't get if he just washed his lousy 4 dishes I would be happy and not fuming with anger at him. I can't even speak to him I am so angry.
The best thing you can do is buy a dishwasher. Or drag him shopping for one. Don't look at the least expensive. Start with the over thousand dollar jobbies to show you mean business and maybe he will bend his elbow a bit?? Men will take the time to understand a MACHINE? (well sometimes they will)
The thing that realllllllllllllllllllllly pisses me off is if the house is a pigsty it is always a reflection on ME instead of the pigs I live with. Who made that rule? What blackhearted jerk decided it was the women that needed to keep everything neat? Can we get a pill/shock treatment/aversion therapy/whatever to make our families compulsive neatniks?