Patches' mom, 2nd cat lonely

[Ann]

Hi!

I am at work - so will be fairly short! But, I had posted April 9th in regards to having to put our beloved Patches to sleep due to 14 yrs old and kidney failure.

I have been getting along better than I expected. I miss Patches every day; but wonderful to have so many fond memories.

We have a 2nd cat - and I am so concerned about him now. He has been really acting differently. I am assuming being lonely and mopping. He is not acting himself, not eating very much at all, does not do all the things he used to do, like sleep with us, or jump up to sit in your lap. Just really seems to sleep most the time - doesn't move from one spot much. We really are trying to give him so much love and attention. We pick him up to sit in our laps - and he will stay there once he is there. Should I be so concerned as to take him to the vet?

Thank you all for all your supportive words!

Ann

[Allies mom]

Dear (((Ann))),
Would you be able to call you vet and speak with him/her and see what they say. I do know that animals will sometimes grieve but I'm not sure how long it usually will last.

I will keep your kitty in my prayers.

Love and hugs,
Janet

[Brandy_Kerasmom]

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I do agree with Janet. I would contact your vet and speak to what they say about him. Sadly our animals are just like us, they will grieve but each one is different. The grieving period for each is different and they grieve in their own way.

He is too in my prayers.

Love and hugs,
Brandy

[My3Angels]

Ann

I am sorry to hear Patches had to make the journey to the bridge. But, your baby is no longer sick or old. I am sure your boy is grieving just like you. I know with each time I had to say goodbye to an angel the one left behind also grieved. With time and a ton of love we got thought it. I would encourage you to check with your vet to make sure nothing is wrong physically. I'd like to extend an invitation to join us at the Lighthouse, you can fine the link towards the top of this page over on the left. We have all been where you are and we will walk with you.


Sheree

[gizmosmom]

(((Ann))))

Sorry you now have this added stress and worry. Mine have done this also and I made sure to give them the extra love and time. They don't understand why they are alone. Talking to your vet wouldn't hurt at all. Just keep watching. Keep playing with your baby and lots of love. I believe all will be good.

Keeping you both in my prayers. Keep us updated.



Mchelle (greyson/gizmo's mom)

[rmmp]

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I am very sorry about your loss. I lost my girl to kidney failure also and I know your heart is broken. My Maggie Rose was 13 years of age. In time, your grief will be made easier with support and beautiful memories of Patches.

As for your other kitty, I agree with the others. I would take him to the vet and have some bloodwork run just to be on the safe side.

I will be praying for him that it is nothing serious.

I hope you will consider coming to join us at the Lighthouse. There are more of us over there and you will receive a more continual support family.

Hugs,

Rhoda (Maggie Rose's Mommy)

[FeralMom]

I agree with all the above...the best one to talk to is your vet. If all is fine physically.....then what is left is a sad kitty. You especially want to make sure he is eating enough...that is important.

The ones left do grieve also and they also sense our grief..and..unfortunately, we cannot tell them with words what has changed and why.

But we can, as you have said, give them lots of extra love and attention, and hope time heals their heartache as it tries to heal ours.

Hugs and kisses to you and your baby. I am sorry for your loss. I have been there and know the sadness and pain of losing a precious one and I have read it is not unusual for a baby left to grieve also.

Maybe your vet has some suggestions too. In some instances, I have read it helped to find a new friend for your friend.

But I definitely would discuss it with my vet and as you are doing...giving lots of extra attention. It may take some time but as long as the vet feels physically your boy is okay...that's what is important.

Give your boy a special hug and kiss from me, please.

Judy

[rena]

Ann,

I'm so sorry about your loss of your baby Patches. I too lost one cat to cancer 18 months ago and my younger girl Sherry only 6 months later. Sherry was acting differently and seemed to be withdrawn and her personality from a very affectionate and demonstrative cat to a what I assumed at the time was having a severe grief response since she and Daisy were closer than Sherry had been with my 5 other cats. Sad to say her symptoms were not only of grief but at the same time she was very ill and I didn't realize it until it was too late. She began overeating several months after Daisy's passing and I actually thought that she was putting on weight too fast when I found out after the fact that it as a symptom of FIP which is terminal in all cases but if I had realized that she was that ill earlier on she would not have suffered so much and her fluids could have been drained. She actually drowned in her own fluid and began convulsing one night and I rushed to the emergency hospital but she had to be pts. I'm sorry that I seem to be rambling on in this post but I want to give you a head up and take your grieving baby to the vet. I don't want you to have to suffer another loss and so soon after Patches. Hugs and kisses.

Rena